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hey this is Leo for actualised dot-org and in this video I'm going to show you how to have amazing mind-blowing sex I'm excited let's get started let's show you how to have sex in an amazing way so that your girl can have orgasm after orgasm after orgasm and fall in love with you in a way that she's never fall in love with another man in her life so let me start off by saying that this is a guide for men not for women there are important tips and tricks that we can talk about for women that will be another video but it's much more important to discuss the technique and the proper mindsets for men why is this because the man is the leader in the bedroom and a lot is riding on him the woman she flows with what the man is doing she's following she's being submissive she's surrendering herself to the man to you so this being the case you need to know what you're doing you need to know how to lead properly and you need to know how to stir the right emotions both in you and in her to make this a mind-blowing experience so a lot of it really has to do with the man I would say 90% of amazing sex is about what the man is doing and only 10% is about what the woman is doing so if you're a man and you've never had mind-blowing amazing sex then you're really missing out on something and this leads me to the next point which is why am I even talking about this topic why is this and why is this an important topic for a personal development why is this an important topic for men two points really first of all is that this is one of the best peak experiences that you will have in life is amazing mind-blowing sex and just from the friends that I survey from the things that I overhear one of the things that that really blows my mind is how bad men are in the bedroom I hear it from women I hear from my guy friends just by seeing the way they interact with their girlfriends and the women that they're dating and having sex with and I just see it by the way the guys talk about sex I just know that they don't understand what the hell is going on so this tells me that that you're missing out you are missing out and your girl is missing out so both of you are missing out this is like a peak experience in life I mean think about it you're on this earth for a short period of time you want to experience everything there is as much as you can in all the different intensities that you can well sex especially amazing mind-blowing sex is one of those things that I feel like a lot of guys and girls miss out on for their entire life I mean girls definitely miss out on it because you can read the literature and like nearly a third or up to 50 percent of women have difficulty just having an orgasm a single orgasm to me that's ridiculous that's just pathetic for me mind-blowing amazing sex means that my girl is gonna have five to ten orgasms per night I'm gonna have one maybe two orgasms per night and it's not just the quantity of the orgasms but it's also the intensity of them and the duration and length of them so I'm talking about long deep like mind-blowing orgasms I'm also talking about like a deep intimate connection also if you're not so much into the intimacy part it can be like very kinky very very dirty type of sex so all of those components will come into play here so this is just one of those things that you want to experience it's kind of like going and seeing a beautiful sunset or going seeing the Grand Canyon that that to me is what amazing sex is like the second point is that if you're the guy and you're having difficulty keeping women loyal to you if you're having difficulty keeping women in a relationship with you if you're worrying about a woman cheating on you this kind of stuff then I think the biggest thing you're really missing is the x-component the amazing sex component for me I never really have to worry about a girl cheating on me I mean she might there's always the chance but I don't have to worry about it because I know that the sex that I give her is so amazing that she can't experience that kind of deep intimate connection with virtually anybody I'm not kidding this is not just a subjective feeling I mean sure she's gonna subjectively fall in love with you but it's also beyond that it goes into the objective realm because literally only maybe one in a thousand guys understand how to trigger these deep orgasms and women and so what that means is that probably if you do it to your girlfriend or to your wife she will never again in her life even if she has sex with 20 other guys she will never again experience the kind of deep emotions she experiences with you during sex this is a very powerful thing because this literally hooks women to you like crack it makes women much more easier to deal with it makes them fall in love with you it eliminates the the disloyalty problems it eliminates a lot of tension in the relationship so this can actually be a very powerful tool and like any powerful tool can be used both for good and for bad so be careful I'm not advocating here that you use this to manipulate or to trick women I'm I'm telling you to use this for good use this to build a deep relationship use this to get whatever like nice things you want out of the relationship not to manipulate her to hook her in any kind of like nefarious way so be responsible there here's the thing to me sex is about the mindset it's not about the techniques and as guys we tend to be very mechanically oriented we tend to be very logical we tend be very methodical and so when we start talking about sex as a guy you might start to think well just give me the exact how-to and I'll go do it like tell me what I should do with my fingers tell me what I should do what kind of thrusting motion I should do tell me what kind of take a position I should put myself in and her that's not the important part and that's really not where guys are screwing up where guys are screwing up are with the mindsets and the emotional components so in this video I'm gonna really hammer on mindset but I'm also going to give you some techniques and I'm going to show you exactly the process that I go through so you can know exactly which steps to go through in order to have an amazing sex experience so the first and most important mindset that you got to understand is that you have to love to please the girl now for some guys this might actually be kind of like a a weird notion because we're we're told as we learn to get better with women one of the things we're told in the kind of the dating and attraction community is we're told well don't supplicate to women don't be the nice guy and that's true when you're attracting the girl but when you're in bed with her and you want to make an amazing experience because you're the leader you have to have a vision for where you're leading you and her and that's giving her amazing orgasms it's not about giving yourself amazing orgasms sex is not about being selfish sex is about giving your gift to the woman you're not doing this to please her or to supplicate to her you're really doing this because you're a masculine guy and it feels really good for you to unleash your masculine energy on the world and on your girl so that's the mindset behind it to me when I get in the bedroom it's like oh man I'm like a kid in a candy store it's like yes yes like I get to finally like share my gift and I get to show how masculine I am and not in a sense of showing off but just like a very genuine and authentic expression of my masculinity like that's exciting to me I love to please the girl I love the idea that I can give her five or ten orgasms I love the fact that I'm gonna give her the most powerful orgasms she's ever had in her life and that she'll never probably have again with anybody else like I love all those components and I think that that's that's what makes me good you know I'm not good because I know a lot of fancy techniques and I'm not good because I have a big dick or anything like that it's simply because like I actually want to get emotional I want to make the girl feel amazing like I want excellence in the bedroom so it's kind of like a standard that I set for myself and you need to sit set that same standard too and you need to bring that mindset to the bedroom because what I find a lot of guys do is they they just take it very mechanically and it's just about kind of like blowing your load so you just like get the girl in the bedroom and then you just have sex with her and you blow your load and when you're done that's it it's done and then you leave like that kind of attitude with that kind of attitude there's no amazing sex that's just blowing your load kind of sex and the woman isn't satisfied with that at all but more than just that like you're you're missing out on so much as the guy too so that's the first most important piece the next very important piece is that you have to be out of your head and you have to be emotionally open and vulnerable during sex for some people this is difficult because they have past traumatic events maybe a bad childhood or whatever or abuse of some kind that keep them kind of emotionally locked up I know a lot of guys sometimes they act very stoic right that kind of a like Schwarzenegger kind of guy with that kind of like Schwarzenegger macho man look and he kind of behaves that way he doesn't smile he doesn't show a lot of emotion he's not charismatic well that doesn't work in the bedroom in the bedroom you got to be able to really be emotional at yourself go and you got to get out of your head and be unselfconscious one of the really cool things about sex is that it's really us one of the peak flow state experiences of life a flow State experience is an experience where you totally lose sense of yourself because you're so absorbed in the activity it's like when you're in that zone if you're playing a sport or if you're at the gym or you're killing it at work or you're playing a video game or something that you can get in the zone where you're not thinking about anything analytically you're just performing behaving and enjoying and soaking it all in and it's this magical almost spiritual experience there's a very little resistance there and very little thinking so if you're a guy one of the most important things is to get like the techniques and stuff out of your head you have to get it internalized so it's kind of like a second nature instinct and that will come with practice and I'll tell you more about that later but very important to get yourself out of the head out of the head so that you can be emotional and open you got to understand as far as mindsets go that for women sex what is it about it's not about the mechanics see guys get this really really wrong and this is why there's a lot of confusion guys think like well to have good sex I need a big dick what's my you know is my big is my dick big enough to make her happy this kind of stuff you can understand that like this stuff doesn't matter to the woman pretty much at all at all because what she cares about is the emotions in the sex emotions women are emotional creatures just in their everyday lives when you get them in the bedroom they're super emotional creatures you've got a almost it's kind of interesting because you're going to be dominant as you're having sex but you also have to be emotional too so you're kind of taking on both masculine but also kind of feminine characteristics some of you guys who are way too serious can't put a smile on your face like this kind of if you're this kind of guy who can't smile can't be emotional around a woman well in the bedroom like I can just imagine how that scenario goes it's very stiff and stilted and mechanical that's not what's sexist about sex it's about emotional expression letting yourself go being vulnerable sharing yourself first of all you got to want to do that if you don't want to do that you think that that's like a [ __ ] thing to do well man you're missing out on a lot be careful about making that kind of judgment it's not a [ __ ] thing at all the most amazing sex that the woman's gonna experience that you're gonna experience is when you are emotional and she's emotional I'm gonna show you how to do it in a very masculine way so don't be worried about that but do understand like the foundation of where amazing sex is coming from like I really want to stress understanding the foundation so that these kind of things about like your dick size you don't even enter into your head because dick size that has to do with emotions that's a purely visual and like a little bit of a mechanical type of thing another thing you gotta really understand about women a woman's deepest fantasy do you know what that is is to be in deep emotional intimacy with her man very important deep emotional intimacy with her man every word of that phrase is very important with her man that means with you right she chose you she doesn't want to have sex with any random guy she's not like a guy she's actually interested in you like she wants you and your personality to be the thing that [ __ ] her that's basically what she wants she wants that intimacy she wants to feel like she's your girl she wants to be able to surrender to you she wants to be penetrated by you not just physically but also emotionally and the physical part that's not the important part she has a guy you think like well I'll just penetrate her physically no that's not the most important part to her the emotional component is even more important than the physical component because any guy can penetrate her physically but only her man the one that she fought wants to fall in love with can penetrate her emotionally in the ways that she wants and the second component here is really she wants to be dominated if she's feminine in your masculine and you're playing that dynamic what creates that kind of sizzle and creates those that chemistry those electric sparks that fly between you two that kind of like amazing connection that's created by the tension between these polar opposites of masculine and feminine masculine is about penetrating feminine is about absorbing and and receiving and surrendering that's the dynamic you got to understand there there's two super critical components of sex to amazing sex they're very easy to remember and I'm gonna actually have a whole video after this one that's gonna tell you how to build up both of these components so the first pillar is intimacy right we already talked about a little bit intimacy you need to you need to convey a lot of intimacy in the way that you're having sex the second pillar is dominance you need to be dominant in the way you're having sex so that you impose yourself on the girl the girl is able to surrender to you by the way if you're wondering like well what about some sort of role-playing where the guy is the one that that's being kind of dominated the girl is a dominatrix that's more like kinky style sex you know there's a lot of different various types of sex and very weird types of sex I'm not getting into that here I'm just covering basic vanilla type of sex it's gonna be amazing and mind-blowing but you know it does assume that the guy is the masculine one and the dominant one and the girl is the feminine one this is going to be true for 90% of men and women this dynamic will work well for maybe 10 or 5% of the population you know they're into some other kind of stuff so we're talking about heterosexual traditional type of sex here so what I want to do now is I want to go through my process I actually shot this video already this my second time shooting this video and that's because as I shot the first one I saw that even though I was telling you all the little techniques and tricks it wasn't good enough because I felt like you weren't gonna get the whole sense of how I make sex amazing for my girl and for me so what I want to do instead is I want to take you through the process of literally how I would seduce a girl have sex with her from beginning to end so you can just see and as we're going through the process I'm going to pause and I'm gonna highlight different tips and tricks that you can use for yourself now one thing to remember about this is that one very important component of sex is just a variety right you don't wanna be having sex the same way all the time so what I'm talking about here is I'm kind of giving you a very basic blueprint and they'll work really well but you don't want to always be doing it exactly this way what you'll be doing is you'll be kind of taking this blueprint and you'll be adding your own little twists and turns and you'll be experimenting you know by yourself and with your girl so let's get started so the first thing that we got to mention before we even get into sex is number be clean clean yourself girls are usually pretty good at this guys sometimes not so much right a woman likes a nice-looking clean-shaven well-groomed man and also nice smelling man smell are really important to women so make sure that you take frequent showers make sure that before sex you go and you wash your private parts wash your dick wash your balls trim down there don't have a bush down there don't make it ugly make it nice and trim you should have just like a little bit of hair not a lot just a little bit so that the woman feels comfortable going down on you you feel comfortable yourself also trimming makes your dick look longer so there's you know multiple nice things about that be clean if you're going to have sex in the evening and you showered in the morning that's not sufficient you're gonna have to go wash up before you have sex so a lot of times what I do is if we're making out and I know that no sex is coming before we start getting to the heavy foreplay what I'll do is I'll just I'll just go to the bathroom sometimes I'll tell her hey I'm gonna go wash up or sometimes I'll just say hey no I'm just going to the bathroom she's not really gonna care in fact what you'll probably want to do is after you go to the bathroom you come back and you tell her hey go wash up and she'll go do it right women are usually pretty good about washing up but sometimes they have a smell down there or whatever to be safe go to go wash up and if there's a specific problem that you've had with her in the past tell her to go wash up it's really simple the second thing before you start sex is make sure you've got condoms condoms and make sure that they're located right near the sex location so near your bed in the bed stand is the best thing make sure the box is open it's not like a plastic wrapped or something because you have to go get scissors to open it up or something like that just you know open the box make sure that they're handy also have two condoms as guys one of the really good things we should be doing I hope you have this habit carry out a condom in your wallet right a lot of guys do that that's smart because you never know you might need one well what I do nowadays is I carry two condoms in my wallet I find this is actually very important for a couple of reasons reason number one is that if you go you know you're going out partying or whatever you have sex someplace that's not your home so you're gonna need at least one but then what if you have sex with there on the condom breaks or the condom slips off falls on the floor or something like that that's going to be a very bad experience for you because you're gonna have this hot girl there ready for sex and you're not gonna have a condom so what's gonna happen is that either you're gonna disappoint her on yourself or you're gonna have sex with her unprotected so don't do that very dangerous the second thing is that if you have sex with her at night and then you're gonna sleep with her in the same bed and then you're gonna wake up in the morning together you're probably gonna want to have sex with her again and again if you only had one condom you've already used it so then you're out of luck and then again what are you gonna really trust yourself to not have sex with this hot girl that's lying in your bed that really wants you just because you don't have a condom you probably will have sex with her unprotected so again watch out for that so carry two condoms okay the next tip I'm going to give you is we already mentioned this but sex is not about blowing your load all right get that out of your mind sex it's not about blowing your load sex is about making for me sex is about making her feel the most amazing experience you could ever feel in her life to me it's like sharing my gift with this girl that's what it's like for me I want you to really adopt that mindset because honestly the reason I like to talk about mindsets here is because the mindset fixes a lot of the technique problems automatically see if your mind said going into the bedrooms I'm going to blow my load then you're gonna do all the wrong things and you're gonna have to remember all these counter techniques to fix those wrong things that's just a bad way to go instead come in with the right mindset I'm there to really please the girl I really love to please the girl with that mindset everything else will come into place and you'll even innovate your own strategies and techniques along the way all right so you really have to slow down slow down when you're having sex this is where this mindset is very important have to love to please the girl to do that you have to slow down if your mindset is about blowing your lower then it's just like you know quick and dirty and then get it in and out kind of situation so let me start talking about how actually do it so for me the best way is you know I've got the girl let's say she comes over to my house or to my apartment and she's there I'm with her in the count on the on the couch in the living room and I know I want to have sex with her and so I you know I start to amp things up usually what that means is you sit next to her you start kind of playing her poking her putting your hands on her that kind of stuff I can start with some playful type of physical contact then you want to start to get it to kissing kissing and really making out making out on the couch that's like one of my favorite things and when you're making out make sure to take it nice and slow and make sure that you really spend your time there I can spend 15 to 20 minutes just making out with the girl that alone right there we'll get her super aroused and really excited for you sex really good sex is about arousal and teasing and then only later comes the climax and the satisfaction of the stuff that you were teasing so it's really about being very good at foreplay in teasing I'm gonna show you how to do just that so what I do is I start kissing her all right kids are nice and soft nice and slow you can vary it up you can kiss her gently on the lips you can kiss her a little harder you can use a little more tongue you can bite her bottom lip you can right bite her top lip you can put your tongue in her mouth move it around the corners of her mouth and the different lip there's a lip slips that she's got so you can do that the other thing you can do is you can start kissing her face or you can start kissing her neck area women are really really turned on when they get touched or kissed on the neck as you're doing that you also want to incorporate your hands so part of this thing about being dominant is putting your hands on her that means to her that that's like she's being controlled and taken by you so you know put your hands on her hips put your hands on her breasts this is still she's still clothed we're assuming both you still clothed you're just on the couch making out but you can already start rubbing her and kind of groping her and caressing her and fondling her you could also take her hands put them in your hands this kind of stuff so just like slowly start really slowly building it up building it up building it up another really nice technique is that as you build it up you do something really hot and sexy maybe you kiss her on the neck but then you pull back and you just start going back to the kind of like kissing her on the mouth kind of thing just not as erotic then maybe can go back to the neck and if you can go a little bit towards the breast and then you go back to the mouth so this builds up like anticipation within her it makes her feel kind of tingly like like there's like this kind of like kinetic energy in the air like something's gonna happen she's not quite sure what is exciting right you want to really build up that excitement within her so start making out with her as you're making out a really cool thing that you can do I really have to do this is what you do both of you are still clothed but you take your shirt and you lift it up so that your stomach area is exposed about around your belly button area and then you do the same for her and as you're making out maybe she's lying on top of you or you're lying on top of her what you do is you just expose both your stomachs and you push them together so there's a feeling of like connection and warmth between you and her but your clothes are still on and you're just making out with her and you do it in a way where it's really not obvious what exactly you did so you know what you did but she's not really quite sure but she's just going along with the with the ride and she's feeling very intimate and she's feeling you really turned on because like she gets the sensation as though you're inside her but you're not really so it's a really good way to kind of foreshadow what's coming next so just like middle stuff like this and so just keep building it up this way the next thing that's really important is eye contact you need to have powerful seductive intimate and dominant sorts of eye contact when you're having sex this is really important for women looking into the guy's eyes this is how she knows that she can trust you this is how she knows that she's safe with you this is how she knows if she has an intimate connection with you you should also feel that with your girl - so when you're kissing her you know take time to kiss kiss kiss then pull back and just kind of like admire her and look lovingly in her eyes just like very kind of like sweetly as though she you think she's adorable she's beautiful you don't need to say anything you can just look in her eyes and she'll know it she'll feel it that's kind of an intimate type of look you can also give her a more dominance I'm gonna [ __ ] you kind of look right so the intimate look it's just kind of like you know you're like looking really adoringly at her the dominant look is you're looking at her kind of like you want to kill her so it's more like you know like you're giving her kind of like a stern really serious look don't take it over the top you don't want to come off like some rapists creepy seal your killer kind of guy remember that she has to feel safe with you throughout this whole process so it's not about any anything like that but like it's kind of like she knows that you're gonna take her and you're gonna [ __ ] her brains out that kind of look so give her that one too and you can kind of vary those around so I'll be doing this I'll be making out with her of course after that you know after a while of doing that then you start slowly pulling up the shirts and pulling down the pants and just like slowly taking off layers of clothes you do it for yourself you can do it for her girls really find it hot when the guy takes off his shirt especially if you got some muscles going that's really nice so go ahead and do that that's gonna turn her on both visually but also she can kind of feel you and touch you the next thing after that is you know you try to undress her as much as you can at that point what you might do since you're still in the living room is you might like take her by the hand and then lead her to the bedroom if you want to have sex in the bedroom so that's actually really nice because what that's showing is that you're commanding and you're leading and she loves to follow so that's that's the perfect frame so let's say you take her by the hand and you walk her and let's say she still has her underwear on but you took off all her clothes the rest of them and you and you've still got maybe your underwear on you're otherwise naked so you now you lead her to the bedroom you lie on the bed at this point what I like to do is you know we've already made out we've done a little bit of erotic touching now we talk we start to get into the really like very erotic touching this is where you can get so much mileage so much excitement built up and I feel like a lot of guys miss out on this what you do is you use your fingertips and you use your hands and you use your lips and your tongue and your mouth to basically touch and caress and massage and kiss up and down to her entire body literally from fingers to toes and everything in between except you don't go near her vagina and you don't touch the nipples so you avoid the money areas you save those for last this is what builds up enormous anticipation within her gets her super wet super excited makes her nipples super hard so what you do is you start from the most non-sexual areas and then you move closer and closer towards the most sexual areas so what would that mean that means you know start around her face kiss and touch her face you can hold her face in your hands all that stuff is great let's say she's lying on the bed what I would do is I would actually tell her to lie on her on her stomach on the bed and just kind of lie back and let me do the work and at that point what I would do is I would sit on my knees on the mattress and I would get to work and I start kissing her hands her arms her elbows this area right here the inner elbow part is very sensitive you can kiss on that you can lick on it you can suck on it you can touch it with your fingertips and just move through the arms because the arms are very non-sexual so the arms are really great to start with you can also do the legs start at the bottom of the legs so start near the feet and then moved up the calves and up the thighs the inner thighs are extremely sensitive and very erotic and sexual so I would save those for a little bit later delay on those a bit start kissing around the butt cheek area that's also very sensitive but you can do that you can kiss her sides you can kiss her back you can kiss you can kiss on a stomach which is also very erotic and sexual you can also kiss around the breasts and you can kiss on the breasts under the breasts over the nipples but avoid the nipples that's going to make her super like eager for you so basically do the kissing and you can do different types of kissing you can do little like little pecs like like this you can also do very big sloppy wet kisses and you can do them quickly or you can do them slowly so a big like slow sloppy wet kiss would be like like that and like you get it really sloppy and wet and after you do that kind of kiss another cool trick you can do is you can kind of blow on that area that's still wet after you kissed it so you kiss like this and then you just go like that you blow on it that can feel really good and it just like it's that like little extra touch that most guys would never put into the technique you can also do two types of blowing you can do a faraway kind of blowing which is cold like like this this will cool her body you can also do a kind of about a really warm kind of moist blowing which is like you get your mouth really open wide not narrow and then you blow you just kind of like breed on her and you come really close to her skin so it's like this it basically gets her kind of moist and warm so you can vary between all those another really great thing that I'll do is I'll really use my fingertips to powerful effect you can do a lot of things here you can use your hands you can use your whole finger you can use the pads of your fingertips and you can also use the very tips you can even use the nails so all of these can be used in various different techniques so one thing that I really love to do is I love to use the tip of my fingertips and I'll just run them along her body and I'll start without even touching her body I'll get really close to her skin and what I'll do is I'll just trigger the hairs on her skin right just the hairs not even her skin but just the hairs which makes her like get these little goose bumps makes her really excited then I'll get a little bit deeper and I'll she's struck to touch just very like gently just like caress with the fingertips you can do that and you can do that in all different places on the body then you can get more like a massage going where you're actually like putting pressure slow pressure into it you can also use your fingernails to kind of do a little bit of like a scratching motion gently so you're not hurting her with the mouth we talked about the different types of kissing you can do but you can also use your tongue your tongue you can use the whole tongue like very wide you can also use the tip of your tongue like this just to kind circle it around a little bit and you can also come in a lot of contact with the skin or just like a little bit of contact where you're grazing so you always want to start off slow and light and then go heavier that's the idea the idea is that you're ramping slowly upward right slowly upward so start with very light touching then go heavier and heavier and heavier if she's getting more and more excited for you so this touching is like super important and as you're doing this I would also start to give her a little bit more of a preview of what's happening next so I would take my hands I'd put them on the really inside of her thighs very sensitive I start to like squeeze that I also love to take my hand put it on her tummy the area just a couple of inches below her bellybutton put my hand there and just kind of like put pressure and put warmth on her tummy cuz to her that's like you know she knows what's coming you're gonna be inside her she wants that preview of the fact that you gonna be inside her and like that's super deep like intimate inside you kind of feeling so all of that is great you can experiment around and just try all sorts of different stuff the next thing is dirty talk dirty talk is super important in fact I'm gonna shoot a whole video on dirty talk because it's a I think it's an important topic and there's a lot of different things that you could say I will actually want to give you a lot of examples in that video here I'm just going to give you a very couple of examples I find that most people don't do dirty talk and the first time you try to do it it feels a little bit on I think this is why most people don't do dirty talk because when they first tried it feels like kind of oh man this is too dirty it's kind of embarrassing it's kind of shameful like you got to throw all that out the window in fact dirty talk is one of the coolest things about sex I love dirty talk so much to me it's like man like I take it to an art form like during the day I will think of dirty stuff to say to my girl at night all right I really love to do dirty talk and it wasn't always that way I had to kind of train myself up for it what does dirty talk mean and when should you do it really you should start doing it from the point where you start making out with her and you're thinking of having sex with her so you know start foreshadowing the kind of things that are gonna happen and there's really two different types one type of dirty talk is the more intimate type of dirty talk and then the other type of dirty talk is the more dominant so the more intimate type of dirty talk might be something like baby you know I love you so much like that kind of thing another thing is like baby I just want to undress you and like eat you up from head to toe that kind of stuff the more dom and type of dirty talk is kind of like you might be like rubbing her tummy and then you tell her something like i'm gonna stick my dick inside of there or I'm gonna nail you to the bed or I'm gonna nail your ass to the wall or it might be something like you're gonna be my dirty little slight tonight right I'll give you more examples as we go on and also in the special dirty talk video but basically you start telling your dirty things you start building the canet the intimate connection between you two you can ask her questions you can give her dominant commands you can tell her exactly what you've gone to do to her five minutes from now so you can tell her how you're gonna [ __ ] her you can tell her the ways in which you want to [ __ ] her you can get very graphic and very detailed or you can use kind of innuendo so that's up to you the really important thing is the teasing right so for example the way that I'll tease is like you can take a finger tip just like lick it make it wet and then you can rub it around nipple just like around the edge of her nipple and just I keep doing that for a minute and then like she by that point she really wants you to touch her nipple but you don't do it you look your finger again and you go on to the other nipple and then maybe after you do that what you do is you blow a little bit on the nipples just like uh like this like this by that time she's so excited for you and at that point what I'll probably do is I'll actually you know you want to you want to actually resolve the excitement so at that point you actually like take and start touching the nipples touch the nipples suck on the nipples that usually gets a girl really really wet and excited so at this point you know she's super excited she's super aroused she's probably never been this aroused by any guy in her life like very few guys go to all this length this might take you thirty to sixty minutes to do this whole process and that's great you should be having sex for sixty minutes to two hours that's how long your sex should be you should not be having any sex that's less than sixty minutes that's not sex that's a that's very rushed ridiculous sex so notice that just slowing everything down that will get you so much so now when this is all done she's really excited for me she's begging me she's begging me to be inside her I can actually ask her I can actually make her beg and I'll do that sometimes because it's a very dominant thing I'll say I'll say something like baby beg for my dick inside you all right something like that and then she'll beg and if she doesn't beg in the way that I want or if I don't sense that it's sincere enough or if I don't sense that she's horny enough then I'll just all back off and I'll say am I gonna [ __ ] you or you know just kind of like play with her a little bit make her really play into it make her beg make her want to be [ __ ] and she knows what's going on so she's gonna play into it like it's it's great for both of you after this point what I would get into is some fingering so she's really excited at this point what you do you get you get your fingers you get them wet she should be already super wet now you take your finger start with one finger start rubbing it around like her crotch and inside the the lips of the vagina and just start rubbing it around rubbing around you can rub her [ __ ] experiment around how you do that and of course the really key thing that you're building up to is the actual point at which you penetrate her with with your fingers I'm not even talking about your dick yet so just with your fingers that point I'll build up to it for a long time so I'll rub you know I'll rub all around her lips and her Clint and get her really really wet really excited I can feel how wet she is on my fingers and then what I do is I'll take my middle finger and I'll take the kind of the pad of my middle finger and I'll move it down from the [ __ ] and from the lips more towards the actual hole and what I'll do at that point is I'll just kind of like glide it over the hole and I'll kind of like also I'll be looking at her so usually the way it is that she's next to me her face is next to mine I might be kissing her her legs are open were lying on the bed and my hand is between her legs and I'm doing the fingering but my attention isn't on the fingering I'm not looking at that I'm looking at her that's what builds that intimate connection so at that point I'll really want her to beg me to penetrate her with my finger and I'll really tease her what I'll do is I'll take my pad of my finger and like if this is the hole then I'll just I'll just like very lightly rub it right around the rims of the hole and then just kind of like press on it a little bit so my tip is maybe going in just like a little tiny bit at this point she should be so excited that her hips her whole butt and hip part of the body will be moving towards your finger because she's like gonna want to penetrate herself on your finger and what you can do is you can actually pull the finger away and you can tell her uh-uh-uh don't be a bad girl so you just like you play with her you toy with her after a while of course once she's super excited then you you got a fulfill on your promise put your finger in there start fingering her learn where the g-spot is the g-spot is inside the upper wall about one inch in it has a little bit of a different texture to it so you can rub the g-spot you can also go deeper all the way outside I find that girls love it when it's even deeper than the g-spot and just kind of basically rub your finger and move it around and swirl it around and curl it you can pump it there's different things you can do in fact I have a really great video called how to make a girl squirt which goes a lot more into how to do a really powerful fingering technique so you might want to check that out start with one finger then after she's really excited I'll I'll use the second finger as well so two fingers is this your middle and your ring finger that's the squirting technique but you don't have to make her squirt with that you can just make her [ __ ] the trick here is that your fingering her and now she's so excited that it's gonna be very easy for her to come she's gonna come very quickly it might take you two minutes of pumping like this and she'll be she'll be melting all over you so this is really cool and I want to make her [ __ ] with my fingers in fact sometimes I'll make her [ __ ] twice with my fingers before I've even penetrated her but always at least once to me this is cool for a couple of reasons one is that it kind of takes pressure off me you know as the guide there's a lot of pressure on us to make the girl come I feel like if I can get at least one orgasm in for the girl you know at least like now I know she's satisfied even if we stop at that point I know she's already gonna be fairly satisfied with me that takes more you know a little bit of the pressure off me so this is nice another good thing about this is that you know sometimes you're gonna come very quickly sometimes it's hard to tell whether you're going to come fast tonight or you're gonna you know take longer to come and so I don't want to disappoint the girl by sticking my dick in there and then coming a minute later and not having her orgasm so that would be a letdown so what I want to do is I just want to make her [ __ ] with my fingers once twice even do it more don't worry about her getting finished or somehow exhausting herself women can have unlimited numbers of orgasms they're not like guys this is a very cool thing you can give them literally an unlimited number of orgasms it's amazing it's amazing way you can do 10 orgasms that's not nearly the end of it that's just the beginning so she's not gonna get exhausted from one or two orgasms so make her [ __ ] with your fingers at that point she's gonna be super eager for you to be inside her she's gonna tell you she's gonna be clawing at you she's gonna be clawing at your dick right so this is great and just a side note sometimes in some my other videos I would tell guys that I make a girl come five to ten times and they would be saying like Leo how do you do that that sounds like you're doing something amazing you have some amazing dick or something like that no it's not it's it's very simple actually look here's how it works you make her [ __ ] twice with your fingers then she spreads her legs you start having sex with her you have sex with her and you make her [ __ ] twice with your dick that's also not that hard you know I come pretty quickly it doesn't take me that long to come especially like if I'm really into it there's a lot of emotion going on I can come very quickly but still you can kind of use you know you can use the muscles like around your dick to kind of hold it in hold it back you can also use little techniques to delay so maybe you're having sex with her in one position and you're getting really close to come then you can pull out change positions and by that point you're not ready to come anymore then you can go do it some more that you can change positions again and again and just kind of like rotate stuff around like that maybe you can go down on her she goes down on you so you can alternate so you how you give her two orgasms with your dick then after you come inside her or you come outside her however you want then that's all ready for orgasms you've given her you can do two more orgasms with your fingers so that's six orgasms right there and that's a pretty simple process to go through every single time there's no there's really no reason that you shouldn't be able to do that the only question is do you want to are you gonna take the time to do it this comes back to the original mindset right do you love to please the girl I do that's why my sex is amazing the question is do you want to adopt that mindset I really encourage you to adopt it so anyways going back so she's been fingered now you have sex with her there's all the different positions you can go study them pick up a book whatever pretty simple right missionary doggy style basic stuff you can also throw her on the on the coffee table on the kitchen counter you can have her leaning up against a wall that's really hot and sexy and dominant so there's all the different positions you can try try to delay your own orgasm because as soon as you come that's pretty much it it's over at least for the penetration component you could still finger her a little bit after that but it's gonna end pretty quick so try to delay yours as much as you can if you have premature ejaculation issues that will be a topic for another video I'm not gonna discuss that here so basically what I'm going to do is I'm going to [ __ ] her when I'm [ __ ] her really important I contact in those positions that you can so if it's a missionary lots of eye contact that's why missionary is so great if it's doggy style that's more of a dominant position there try to be more dominant you know spanker you can you can kind of throw her around a little bit on the bed you can grab her hips I love to grab the hips and kind of pull them towards me or kind of move them around it shows that I'm kind of controlling her and then of course as you're doing all that the way that I like to have sex is it's all building up towards my climax right that's the hottest thing for her is when I come inside her that's them that's the most like an orgasm where you come inside the girl whether you're using a condom or not that's that's the best if you're not using a condom that's like even ten times better so her orgasm is gonna be the most powerful when you come with her in her and she wants to come with you so you two are gonna really synchronize when you come inside her I almost find that almost always the girl starts coming no matter where she is in her orgasm she'll start coming again and again and again you want to get pretty good at being able to like pound her without coming yourself so there's like certain angles in certain positions that you can find where you know it feels good for you but it doesn't feel amazing for you but it still feels amazing for her so find those positions that allows you to have like you know the penetrating motion without making you come so fast and stay away from the ones that make you come so fast keep those for later but ultimately my sex you know I'm talking dirty to her the whole time I'm saying intimate things to her the whole time I'm telling her throughout the whole thing that I'm gonna [ __ ] inside her how amazing it's gonna be how dirty it's gonna be how much of a [ __ ] she is you know how much you love her if you're on in loving relationship in your your on that term basis where you're saying I love you you know say that to her too and then finally you're going to come inside her or wherever and you can finger her somewhere after that and then you two are done now what's really important is the after sex component don't forget this a lot of guys forget this you can build a lot of intimacy and allow loyalty from your girl she can really fall in love with you after the sex is done and that's through the cuddling and what you do after sex don't fall asleep after sex that's pathetic don't fall asleep after sex and don't just go silent either and stare at the ceiling like what I like to do is after sex I like to pull her really close I like to cuddle her you know tell her how amazing it is you can caress her body you can just kind of like look lovingly in her eyes you know all that kind of lovey-dovey stuff do that like you will not believe how much kudo points that gets you from a girl plus you should like this too it's amazing to me this after sex cuddling thing it's almost as good as the sex itself in fact sometimes it's even better it's like because you're it's so relaxing you've got all the chemicals kind of flowing out of your body like it feels amazing and now you've got this beautiful girl next to you so like take that time to build up that connection that's really cool and that's pretty much it that's the whole process alright so we covered a lot of stuff here and actually I'm gonna like I said have that second part to the video we're just going to tell you how to be more intimate and how to be more dominant how to work on both those I'm gonna give you very practical things that you can do so that's gonna give you even more techniques the question now is how do you actually learn all this because you know there's a lot of different stuff we covered and remember that component about not being in your head well if you go into the bedroom and you try to do all this stuff that I told you in the exact same sequence what's gonna happen you're gonna you're gonna ruin the sex because it's not going to be spontaneous and natural what I want you to do instead is the following I want you to focus on three core principles three mindsets which will help a lot of the techniques fall into place naturally one is I love to please the girl two is I love to be masculine and three is that excellence in sex is very important to me we won the video review those points those three principles integrate those into your mind visualize and make sure that you really believe them that you really want them from this all the rest will tend to fall into place the other thing I really encourage you to do is read and buy books on sex there's a ton of them out there you can find stuff online you can take video courses there's ebooks there's products all this great stuff so make sure to to dig into it study it studying sex is important it's cool there's nothing weird about it next is porn most of you guys probably watch a ton of porn anyways but you know what there's actually bad porn and good porn good porn is I mean like porn where you can actually learn techniques you can see cool stuff happening like you can see that the male guy who was having sex with the girl he's like he's performing in an amazing way so make sure you find those porn take mental notes when you watch that porn and see oh he's doing this that's cool I want to do that with my girl or oh she's doing that maybe I'll tell my girl to do that so you know get a lot of ideas from porn find what you find the most sexy from porn and then incorporate that into your routine of course try to integrate one piece at a time you're not going to do it all at once if you've never had sex before you're not gonna be able to go and do all this at once you know just start with the very basics maybe you want to focus on kissing and touching and teasing maybe start with that then maybe you want to move on to a little bit of dirty talk spend a couple of nights just practicing dirty talk then a couple of nights later maybe you're gonna try some spanking some other stuff so just like slowly incorporate and sprinkle this stuff in that's going to be the best way to do it and ultimately what we're talking about here is practice practice practice and the best way to do that is not through one-night stands but through getting a girlfriend if you want to get really good at sex what you need is you need some of that you'd have sex with consistently frequently lots of times and you can also build up the intimacy so one of the reasons I find that guy is actually I know a lot of guys who have had sex with lots of girls I mean guys who have had like sex with 100 girls 200 girls 300 girls but these guys can be bad with girls in the bedroom they can be bad at sex because a lot of the girls that they're having sex with these are one-night stands one-night stands tend to be the lowest quality sex that's another thing it's like a one-night stand sure it can be exciting because it's like a very you know new strange person strange situation it's exciting but also you can't really get deep with that person you're using a condom with that person you're a little bit of afraid of you know where that person's been or what they're doing you're you guys are not in sync with each other you might have you might you don't really know that person too well you don't know they're kissing style you don't know what kind of sex they like or don't like so the best way get a girlfriend you know be with her if you want to be with her forever fine if you want to be with her for six to 12 months be with her pert will 6 or 12 months have sex with her a lot as you're having sex with her what you do is you go back to this video and every time you have sex before you have sex you watch this video again you take notes and you find ok what's that one thing from everything that Leo talked about that I'm going to incorporate this night and then you go and you do it so maybe tonight it's gonna be dirty talk next week it's gonna be spanking next week it's gonna be something else and so over the course of like 6 to 12 months I found you can get really good at sex just with one girl because you're having stuff continuously but you gotta you got to not go you know fly by the seat of your pants you have to actually put a little bit of like Saint thought into the way that you're having sex so prepare beforehand if I find that if you do this you know it's a little bit unnatural and mechanical at first it seems like well sex sex should be so simple I shouldn't be studying how to have sex you know what don't take that attitude take this attitude I'm gonna study how to have sex with the next six to twelve months but then I'm gonna be like a sex God a sex machine I'm gonna be so good that we're gonna be falling in love with me every single time and at that point it's gonna be so flew it's so natural so easy that I'm not gonna need to remember any of these techniques I can throw away my notes it's all gonna be up here and honestly it will be because sex is a very natural thing and you don't need that much experience to get good if you have sex 20 times 30 times 40 times and you incorporate all the stuff I told you you will become extremely good and you will be in the top 1% of all guys on the entire planet and women will love you for it do not mistake how much women love sex women love deep dirty intimate sex more than guys do because there are very emotional creatures they need it more than guys do guys we like to bust our nuts women they like that deep emotional connection so take the time give it to them you're gonna feel great she's gonna feel great it's gonna be a win-win for everybody and use this new developed skill of yours responsibly all right this is Leo I'm signing off go ahead post me your comments down below I'd love to hear what you think leave me a like click the like button right now share it with your 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